Well, if recoil is your main concern, stay away from all benellis and the A5 as they rely on heavy recoil in order to operate. Remingtons Versa Max makes a big hoopla about their gun feeling like a 20 gauge...and it does. If you have access to one, I'd highly recommend that you take it for a spin.
I second the VM. I broke mine in by shooting a round of trap...with 3 1/2" #2s...and could still lift my arm afterwards.